We got a partial answer: Social Anxiety Disorder with school-specific Agoraphobia, plus a referral for an ASD evaluation. The psychiatrist said, “The pandemic broke her routine, but the school broke her trust.” For the first time, Maya looked at an adult without hate.
She stood at the front door. “I’m not ready for a full day,” she said. “But I’ll sit in the attendance office for first period. I’ll wave at the principal.” It was the smallest, bravest thing I’ve ever seen. 30 days with my schoolrefusing sister final 2021
We drove in silence. She didn't run. She walked through the front doors of the high school for the first time in 18 months. She turned back, gave me a thumbs down (her ironic way of saying “I hate this”), and disappeared inside. We got a partial answer: Social Anxiety Disorder
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By: An Overwhelmed Older Sibling
I tried the gentle older brother approach. “Hey, let’s just go to first period. Art class. You love art.” Maya laughed—a bitter, hollow sound. “Why? So I can sit in a room full of people who watched me have a panic attack in 9th grade? No thanks.” School refusal isn't truancy. She wants to learn. She is terrified of the arena .